As children, our first friends are our cousins or siblings. Whatever happened to those strong bonds that we were building in our childhood? Have we forgotten the constant laughter, the mischief we often got ourselves into, or the secrets that we told one another? As we grow older whether it be time, distance, or friction that tore the bond apart; let's rebuild those ties. I mean really how can we love our best girlfriend or homeboy so much and expect so much loyalty when there is someone we once were hard to separate from that is tossed aside like a ragdoll. When was the last time you check on that special cousin or sibling just to see how they are doing? If you never had these types of bonds, your question is, how are you treating that great friend? That rock? The person who knows the deep crevices of you? Hopefully, you are treasuring it. Strong bonds are necessary for life. We need the family members that were our first secrete holders and we need our very good and dear friend who has become a large extension of our family.
However, I want to focus on the family for a minute, not to discredit the friendships, but just focus here for a minute. Many of you may have excellent family relationships, and that is a wonderful blessing. Nevertheless, I want to talk to those who don't so they can get it right. Maybe you can forward this message to someone who needs to read this.
Jealousy, strife, misunderstands and all forms of discords can disconnect the family. Just like in the Bible with Cain and Abel. According to Genesis, Abel, a shepherd, offered the Lord the firstborn of his flock. The Lord respected Abel's sacrifice but did not respect that offered by Cain. In a jealous rage, Cain murdered Abel. He was only 15 years old! This did not have to happen. Conversations and a meeting of the minds to express how a person felt could have possibly cleared things up. Prayer, fasting, and waiting on the Lord, could have possibly helped. I am sure this hurt the parents, who have watched them grow in love as children. I am also sure there is guilt on the part of Cain that he had to live with for the rest of his life. Guilt is a heavy load to carry people. This is a severed bond never to be repaired. Murder or death is not something you can just say you are sorry and move forward. So for you, before these siblings or cousins, your first friends leave this earth; let's make things right. Let's do better! Let's treat them the way we treat our good girlfriends or homeboys ( now if you are mistreating your friends as well, get it together, before you are all alone because everyone is sick of your crap!). It is not always all about you! There are two sides to every story. Take the time to listen to have understanding, then talk to give your accounts of what happened, not attack!
Making lasting memories and good memories are what we are here for. Not just with our friends but our family too. Big Momma, wanted to keep the family together and wanted everyone to get along. Let's get back to the basics. Let's get back to family and doing the right thing. Some of you are thinking of all the wrongs they did. You may be right, but you are not perfect either, yet God forgave you! Have the conversation. Fix it. Let's not wait until we are looking at the casket and falling out making a scene because then, it is definitely too late.
"Bringing back laughter and great memories is the vibe I am on. Any form of discord is a distraction and I am not here for it."- Alston Shropshire