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A Kiss from Rose | What Are You Teaching Your Children

It's a sobering reality: our children are constantly observing and emulating our behaviors, both the good and the bad. While no parent wants to believe they're passing on negative habits, the truth is that our actions speak louder than our intentions. Children, in their formative years, absorb everything around them, primarily from us, their parents.

Consider this: you might be appalled at the mere thought of it, but your child is often a mirror reflection of your own behaviors and actions. They mimic not just your words, but your mannerisms, reactions, and attitudes.

While they do have their own unique personalities, upon closer examination, you'll often find they're a miniature version of you, for better or for worse.

Whether it's being a bully, kind, mean girl, an over achiever, good listener, messy, a fighter, promiscuous, drug dealer, or liar. It all comes from somewhere.

Today, let's focus on acknowledging and addressing the negative behaviors we may inadvertently be passing on to our children.

Here are five examples:

1. Self-absorption: If you find your child overly focused on themselves, constantly seeking attention or validation, take a moment to reflect. Are you inadvertently demonstrating similar behavior, perhaps by prioritizing your own needs or constantly seeking affirmation from others?

2. Combative nature: Is your child quick to argue, stubborn in their opinions, or resistant to authority? Consider whether you display similar traits in your interactions, perhaps being confrontational or resistant to compromise.

3. Lack of listening: Do you struggle to truly listen when others speak, interrupting or tuning out during conversations? Your child may mirror this behavior, demonstrating a disregard for others' perspectives or struggles to pay attention when spoken to.

4. Difficulty in communication: If your child struggles to express their thoughts or emotions effectively, consider whether you model open and honest communication in your own relationships. Are you prone to bottling up emotions or avoiding difficult conversations?

5. Impulsivity: Does your child often act without thinking, making hasty decisions or struggling with self-control? Reflect on whether you exhibit similar impulsive behaviors, perhaps acting on emotions without considering the consequences.

Now, the question arises: are you willing to be transparent enough to accept responsibility and initiate change? Recognizing our role in shaping our children's behaviors is the first step towards breaking generational cycles. By making a conscious effort to model positive habits and address our own shortcomings, we pave the way for a healthier, more balanced future for our children. Will you take that step today?

Let's cancel out the negative behaviors and create more positive ones in ourselves and our children.




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