A Kiss from Rose | The Elders Weren’t Always Right

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Aug 13, 2024
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The Hidden Truth: The Elders Weren’t Always Right

In many families, elders hold a position of deep respect, often viewed as the ultimate source of wisdom and guidance. However, it’s important to recognize that elders weren’t always right, and their decisions or actions may have had unintended consequences. When these elders caused confusion or discord, the younger generations, out of respect, often remained silent. This silence, though rooted in reverence, can be detrimental to the entire family structure, allowing issues to fester and leading to generational curses that continue to impact the family long after the elders are gone.

One powerful example of this dynamic can be found in the Bible with the story of the stolen birthright. Jacob, encouraged by his mother Rebekah, deceived his father Isaac to steal the birthright from his brother Esau. This act of favoritism and deceit, driven by flawed human decisions, created a rift between the brothers that spanned generations. The ripple effects of this stolen birthright went far beyond Jacob and Esau, influencing the lives of their descendants and shaping the history of entire nations. It’s a stark reminder that elders, despite their good intentions, can sometimes make decisions that have lasting negative consequences.

Similarly, in our families today, when elders make mistakes or show favoritism, it can create an environment of resentment and jealousy among siblings and cousins. This favoritism not only fractures relationships but also sets a harmful precedent for future generations. Children grow up witnessing these patterns and, unless consciously addressed, may continue them in their own families.

As the years go by and these elders near the end of their lives, they often realize the damage that has been done. Apologies and attempts to mend broken relationships surface, but by this time, the harm is deeply rooted. The wounds inflicted by years of favoritism and unresolved conflict are not easily healed. While the desire for change is commendable, the reality is that much damage has already been done.

It is crucial for families to understand that just because someone is an elder doesn’t mean their actions were always right. Leading by positive example is the key to breaking these harmful cycles. Elders have the power to shape the future by fostering unity, fairness, and open communication. When younger generations see these qualities modeled, they are more likely to carry them forward.

Today, there is a growing awareness among newer generations about the importance of changing these behaviors. They recognize the need to create a healthier environment for their children, free from the burdens of the past. By confronting these issues head-on and striving for positive change, they are paving the way for a future where respect is mutual, and love is unconditional.

The time to break the cycle is now. It’s a challenge, but one worth taking for the sake of future generations. Let’s lead with love, fairness, and the wisdom to speak up when necessary, ensuring that our families are built on a foundation of unity and understanding.

What confusion did your elders cause? Are you ready to change the behavior? I didn’t say address it I said change the behavior.