A Kiss from Rose | Is Your Friendship A Secret

alstonshropshire3
Aug 12, 2024
2 min read

If someone keeps your friendship or relationship a secret, it’s a clear sign that something is off. True friends or partners should never feel the need to hide their connection with you. When someone does, it reflects more on their insecurities and lack of authenticity than on you. It shows they’re not ready to embrace the full truth of who they are or who you are, which often stems from fear, shame, or a desire to maintain appearances.

A powerful example of this can be found in the story of Peter denying Jesus. Despite being one of Jesus’ closest disciples, Peter disassociated himself from Jesus when the pressure was on, fearing the consequences of being associated with Him. Just as Peter denied knowing Jesus three times to protect himself, people today might distance themselves from you to avoid judgment, criticism, or repercussions, showing where their true loyalties lie.

Jesus! I wonder how they felt in the end! After all He did for Peter and the rest of the disciples!

On your side, being hidden or disowned in this way can lead to feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, and a constant questioning of your value. It’s as if you’re being told, indirectly, that you’re not good enough to be seen in the light of day. This can damage your self-esteem and create a toxic dynamic where you’re left guessing and doubting yourself.

Who wants to be a secret friend? No one!

For them, the act of hiding or disassociating creates a double life, which is stressful and unsustainable. It often leads to guilt and a disconnect from their true self. The weight of living a lie or half-truth catches up with them, leading to an inevitable breakdown in trust and communication.

Playing two end of the fence can be dangerous.

People often keep relationships or friendships secret because of societal pressures, fear of judgment, or unresolved personal issues. They might be scared of losing something else they value, like reputation or another relationship, and so they keep you in the shadows.

Hidden friendships or relationships may lead to private conversations that may not be in your best interest.

But this kind of relationship is not healthy for either party. You deserve to be valued, respected, and loved openly. If someone can’t offer that, it’s time to reconsider their role in your life. Moving on may be difficult, but it’s necessary for your emotional well-being. Surround yourself with people who celebrate you, not hide you. Embracing those who stand proudly by your side will lead to more genuine, fulfilling connections, where both parties can grow and thrive together in honesty and openness.

Is your friendship/ relationship a secret? How long have you known? How does it make you feel?

If you are the person doing this, how would you feel if this were being done to you?