What would we do if God caged us? Not allowing us to be free; free to think, make a choice, or use our voice. What if He had us just sitting there on a shelf collecting dust? What if He just walked past us every day, not feeding us or loving us? What if He enjoyed everything around you but you? What if the mere sight of you disgusted Him, but He kept you in the cage anyway, just to be overlooked and discarded? What mental torture would you be putting yourself through? There are some marriages like this. Where the mentality is, I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you. I want to leave, but I want you to be the one to go first. I want to make you suffer like the way my mom suffered, even though I hated my father for doing so. Suffered can mean by the hands of physical abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse, or isolation; they all are cages. Sometimes you can become the very person you hate so much. Even though you wanted your mother to break free from her cage, you still cage your spouse.
At some point, the question will be, "What did you marry me for?"
Think about this in your marriage, when you look in the mirror, who do you see? Your mother, father, the bird in the cage, or the spouse with a spouse in the cage? (A trick question)
Know that God will free and save any marriage. He honors marriages. He is freeing the person from the cage but saving the union right now in the mighty name of Jesus. Let us all touch and agree on this for someone. Let us petition God to sweep through the homes and cover the marriages where the spouse doesn't even realize anything is wrong; and that they have discarded their better half. Where the spouse doesn't know they are caged. Lord, we ask You to mend the broken vows and hearts. Lord, You are the rock that every marriage stands. Hold and lift them. Keep and cover them. Release the weight and the burdens they are carrying from their parents and their past. Lord, allow the blood to seep through the cracks and crevices. Keep discord, disconnect, and disagreements out of the marriages, in Jesus' name, Amen.
" Stand in the gap and make a difference." - Alston Shropshire
