A Kiss from Rose | Accountability: When You Are the Problem
- alstonshropshire3
- Aug 21
- 1 min read
It is easy to point the finger at everyone else. It is easy to say “they misunderstood me” or “they’re just hating.” But what if the real issue is not them—it’s you?
Accountability is the mirror that most of us avoid. Yet, until you can admit that you have been the storm in someone else’s peace, the weight in someone else’s joy, or the stumbling block in someone else’s walk—you will keep repeating the cycle.
The Bible says, “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves.” (2 Corinthians 13:5). That means before you expose someone else’s flaws, confront your own.
If every room you walk into turns into conflict, maybe it is not the room—it is you.
If every relationship ends in the same pain, maybe the common denominator is not them—it is you.
If your first reaction is always defense, maybe your conscience already knows you are guilty.
God cannot heal what you will not acknowledge. He will not fix what you keep blaming others for. True growth starts when you say, “Lord, I was wrong. I need You to change me.”
Accountability is not weakness—it is strength. It takes courage to admit, “I hurt them.” “I messed this up.” “I need to do better.” That is where God’s grace shows up the strongest, because He resists the proud but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6).
👉 So before you pray about who did you wrong, ask yourself: “Am I the problem?” That question alone could be the very thing that changes your life.
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