As countless people celebrated their mothers, some had to visit her by the gravesite. Some just laid in the bed crying, replaying the memories of her. Some did not cry but still wished she was still here. Some people did not have the best relationships with their mothers, and it is hard not to have the closure they need. Some people said that the last time they spoke with their mother, it was not the best conversation to have and for it to be the last; well, that too is hard to deal with. Some relationships were toxic at best. Some people did not take care of their mother,
would not check on them, and would not take them to the doctor or the store. Some people are hurting because they often said no to their mother and would now give anything to say yes to her. These are real things that happen to people. Everyone's relationship is not roses and rainbows. It does not mean they do not love one another. It just means they needed a little more time to iron the kinks out. Well, we all should know, time, well, that is in God's hands. We do not know the day nor the hour. While we have this precious time on earth, we all need to make it count; while having the time. We all need to take care of our mothers, call her, appreciate and adore her while we can. There is nothing that can soothe the pain of her being gone but Jesus and time. No amount of alcohol or drugs, so no need to go that route. When you are sitting at the gravesite, if you even go, you are talking and crying. There will be no hugs or tears coming back, no voice saying it is ok.
Some did everything right and still were not ready for their mothers to go, even if they lived a full life. The relationship was that good, and they wanted them to live on forever. It still is hard for them to accept the fact that she is gone. It is still hard to visit the gravesite. It is still hard to watch others celebrate their mothers. Jesus and time will heal that too.
So to those who celebrated their mothers, be thankful for the opportunity and pray for those who could not.
To those who were unable to celebrate their mother because she is resting in the arms of the Lord, remember every good thing about her. Strive every day to make her proud. Know that she is watching with a smile on her face.
"Living with regret is a hard pill to swallow. At some point you are going to have to deal with it." -Alston Shropshire